Sunday, December 31, 2006

happy new year!


time flies and here we go again. a new year. 2006 has been blast! happy new year mga chong! enjoy!

Sunday, December 24, 2006

happy holidays!

a few more hours and it's christmas once again!

wherever you are,whether at work, at home or just hanging around, hope you guys enjoy this season. to my fwends at ama, infophil, cvg, amn and my fellow bloggers, mewi kwismas guys!

enjoy!

Wednesday, December 20, 2006

christmas leave


a few more hours and i'm off to start enjoying my christmas leave. actually, 1 leave + 2 rd's + 1 leave + 2 holiday off's...do the math.

be back after christmas! weee !

Thursday, November 30, 2006

off to the last "ber"

september was the worst month ever (well at least for me. damn reshuffling!), october was a bit of an adjustment (thanks to swing shift), while november seems to be calm (because of anonther reshuffling!).

i hope that december would be a better one. haven't enjoyed much of the christmas season yet so let's see...

now where did i put my wishlist???

Saturday, November 25, 2006

food...


food is the best way to forget all your problems.. just finished eating hotsilog (it's short for hotdog, sinangag and fried eggs) ! next dish, bicol express for lunch. nam-nam!

Sunday, November 19, 2006

22 years old

i haven't opened my ageproject account in a while and to my surprise:


Your age game profile: visitors have guessed: 59 times about this picture
average guess: 22 years old

well well well.
looks like somebody's getting younger. *wink wink*
agejproject is a site where you can upload your photo and let the public guess your age. wanna join?? here's the link:

http://ageproject.specialsnowflake.com/

Saturday, November 18, 2006

screensaver nightmare!

i recently installed a new screensaver on my phone and because of that...i was late for 3 hours! geez.. i never thought that a simple screensaver can drain a fully charged phone for just 10 hours. grrrrrr

because they never received any call or text that i'll be late for work, people thought that something bad must have happened and they have lots things in their mind:

-i got mugged
-i was poisoned
-some said i had a tumor in my brain
-and the worst... that i died because of a bad dream!


great!

lesson learned: don't put too much flashy programs on your phone!

Sunday, November 12, 2006

now that i have you...

now that i have you
everything just seems so right
now that i have you i'm alive
you are the song that i'll be
singing my whole life through
i'm living in a brighter world
now that i have you...

next time, i'll search for a live person!

yewhew, jodie!

Friday, November 10, 2006

nothing in this world

Sometimes a dreamer is a loser.

Sometimes reality is not what it seems.

Sometimes a loser wins.

Dare to dream...



Da-da,
Da-da, Da-da, Da,
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da

So I was thinking to myself when you passed me by
"Here's what I like"
And you were with somebody else but you can't deny
That's me in your eye

Do you know
What it's like
When it's wrong
But it feels so right?

Nothing in this world can stop us tonight
I can do what he can do so much better
Nothing in this world can turn out the light
I'm gonna make you feel alright tonight.
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight

Baby, you and I, we got what will never be
You know I'm right
So tell me what you're waiting for when you're here with me?
Most girls would die

You should know
What it's like
When it hurts
'Cause it feels so right

Nothing in this world can stop us tonight
I can do what he can do so much better
Nothing in this world can turn out the light
I'm gonna make you feel alright tonight.
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight

I gotta tell you somethin'
It's somethin' that you just might like
No, it's not the same thing
Yeah, you'll learn I'm not too shy
You and I, we can do this thing tonight

Nothing in this world can stop us tonight
I can do what he can do so much better
Nothing in this world can turn out the light
I'm gonna make you feel alright tonight.
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight
Da-da, Da-da, Da-da, Da, Tonight

Sunday, November 5, 2006

dreams

tried browsing on my previous blog entries. it was kinda fun looking back on how i struggled during those days, how things worked out and how everything fall into place.

then i stumbled upon an old entry that really caught my attention:

entry for Saturday May 7, 2005 - 02:33am (PDT): office life - i miss the ordinary life. we get to talk about office life yesterday and i really wished that i was in a real office. yun bang kahit naka-office attire ka eh masaya ka naman. i really want to work in an office in makati, look at the skyscrapers around, makipagchismisan, bili ng fishballs at kung ano-anong kakanin outside, surf the net, type dito, type dyan, at kung ano-ano pa. hayyy. sana nga ganito na lang ang buhay ko. i used to work in an office like this and i really missed it. the only consolation right now is the big pay. hayy.

2 months ago, this was already a dream come true for me. now, i guess a part of it still is... the only thing that's missing right now are the people that made these dreams come true. now i came to realize that these people are not only my friends... they are the answer to my dreams. miss you guys!

Tuesday, October 31, 2006

why oh why???

Former Nashvillian Reese Witherspoon, 30, and husband Ryan Phillippe, 32, announced today that they are separating after seven years of marriage .

According to TMZ.com and People.com , a spokesperson for the couple said, "We are saddened to announce that Reese and Ryan have decided to formally separate. They remain committed to their family and we ask that you please respect their privacy and the safety of their children at this time."


of all the people, why them?? not my favorite couple!!!

why not brangelina or tomkat???

why oh why??? *sniff sniff

Sunday, October 29, 2006

advantages of being insensitive

you won't miss your friends that much.
you tend to give an impression that you're strong even if you're not.
you won't easily fall in love with your best friend.
you don't care what people think about you.
you just do your job and that's it.
you don't get too emotional.
you don't easily get hurt.
you easily adapt to change.

i wish i am. but i'm not.

Saturday, October 28, 2006

diet coke + mentos = KABOOM!

oh the wonders of science!!! (with a bit of research..ehem) did you know that dropping a few mentos (the original one. dont mind the photo, it's fruity) into a bottle of diet coke can trigger an eruption. if i have known this earlier, i sure would have made a lot of my old school enemies cry! oh...sweet revenge... nyahahaha

Per Wikipedia:

"When Mentos is dropped into soda, the gelatin and gum arabic of the candy dissolves and breaks the surface tension. This disturbs the water mesh, so that it takes less work to expand and form new bubbles. Each Mentos candy has thousands of tiny pits all over the surface. These tiny pits function as nucleation sites, perfect places for carbon dioxide bubbles to form. As soon as the Mentos enters the soda, bubbles form all over the surface of the candy. The Mentos quickly sinks to the bottom, releasing carbon dioxide as it comes into contact with carbonated liquid along the way. The sudden increase in pressure pushes all of the liquid up and out of the bottle."

sweet!

Friday, October 27, 2006

the pldt csr agent

i recently heard the pldt agent cursing scandal. poor csr. why didn't she check if the mute button was on. *snobs* but it really happens. sometimes you just can't control it. i remember it also happened to me. the difference in my case is that i was talking to an american meaning he wasn't able to understand anything i've said when i lost my temper. (tee-hee ) i guess this csr reached the point of burnout and stress. i can't blame her. the call center industry is really not ideal for the sensitive and shy. if you're fond of talking and answering phone calls then yes, this job is for you. i've had my share of experience for almost 2 years and yes, it was a stressful job. but not all of it of course. having a good company beside you really makes the workload easier to handle.

haven't heard it yet? click the link below and press the play button:

http://pau.araos.com/pldt-mydsl-csr-loses-it

we're all in this together



together, together, together everyone

together, together, come on lets have some fun
together, were there for each other every time
together together come on lets do this right

here and now its time for celebration
i finally figured it out (yeah yeah)
that all our dreams have no limitations
that's what its all about

everyone is special in their own way
we make each other strong (each other strong)
were not the same
were different in a good way
together's where we belong

we're all in this together
once we know
that we are
we're all stars
and we see that
we're all in this together
and it shows
when we stand
hand in hand
make our dreams come true

together, together, together everyone
together, together, come on lets have some fun
together, were there for each other every time
together together come on lets do this right

we're all here
and speaking out with one voice
we're going to rock the house (YEAH YEAH!)
the party's on now everybody make some noise
come on scream and shout

we've arrived becuase we stuck together
champions one and all

we're all in this together
once we know
that we are
we're all stars
and we see that
we're all in this together
and it shows
when we stand
hand in hand
ake our dreams come

we're all in this together
when we reach
we can fly
know inside
we can make it
we're all in this toghether
once we see
theres a chance
that we have
and we take it

wild cats sing along
yeah, you really got it goin' on
wild cats in the house
everybody say it now
wild cats everywhere
wave your hands up in the air
that's the way we do it
lets get to it
time to show the world

we're all in this together
once we know
that we are
we're all stars
and we see that
we're all in this together
and it shows
when we stand
hand in hand
make our dreams come

we're all in this together
when we reach
we can fly
know inside
we can make it
we're all in this together
once we see
theres a chance
that we have
and we take it

wild cats everywhere
wave your hands up in the air
that's the way we do it
let's get to it
come on everyone!

Saturday, October 21, 2006

earthquake

According to the U.S. Geological Survey:

MAG:
5.8
UTC DATE-TIME(y/m/d h:m:s): 2006/10/20 17:27:07
LAT:
13.467 deg
LON: 121.509 deg
DEPTH: 47.4 km
Region:
MINDORO, PHILIPPINES

Distances:

38 km (24 miles) ENE (76°) from Calapan, Mindoro, Philippines
59 km (36 miles) ESE (122°) from Batangas, Luzon, Philippines
103 km (64 miles) WSW (239°) from San Pedro, Luzon, Philippines
141 km (87 miles) SSE (155°) from MANILA, Philippines

uhuh, and while oli & meg were holding hands because of the quake (don't worry, meg's a lady who want to be gay and oli's a gay who wants to be a lady **confused**), i was answering a question! daym! i wasn't even able to enjoy moment. jodie never felt the quake while we were chatting in ym. maybe because the quake is stronger here at the 9th floor. yet after the quake, i feel like floating. man, feels like you're on drugs! hope there's no tsunami though.

**update: another quake happened at 6:09 AM

MAG: 5.5
UTC DATE-TIME(y/m/d h:m:s): 2006/10/20 22:09:28
LAT:
13.421 deg
LON: 121.454 deg
DEPTH: 15.0 km
Region:
MINDORO, PHILIPPINES


what a shaky day!

Sunday, October 15, 2006

makati

i been living in makati since 1999. a lot has changed... from places to people. here's a good pic of the city that i got from the skyscapercity forum:


try to find the place where i live. haha

*hint: the bldg with the banner 243-6565.

Saturday, October 14, 2006

things to ponder

there are a lot of things that i realized and some that i still have to ponder:

change is inevitable. you've always thought that it's final. kala mo happy ending na. may it be your job, routine or the things that you're used to. you just have to face it. past is past. the only thing that i still and probably would never understand is why some people don't even know the effect of their decisions.

shit happens. if somebody did something bad to you, eh di gumanti ka. if somebody said something bad about you, then try to change yourself. malay mo totoo di ba? and if something bad happens to you, then learn from it.

friends come and go. understand the fact that friends come and go. try to spend the most of your time with them before it's too late. and when they go, you also need to learn to let go. but there will always be a precious few that you should hold on to.

you'll always want more. even if you have everything, you always want something better. you upgrade your pc because its slow. you change your fone because it's outdated. ganun talaga. you're human. you'll always want something better. try to buy yourself a gift once in a while.

always look at the bright side. for the past few weeks, i've been complaining about the way i do my job. but i came to realize that i just complain because i wanted a perfect job. may gulay, hundreds of applicants tried and dreamed of working at amn. no calls, no irate callers, no surf control (on friendster! hehe).. who wouldn't want that? and here i am whining about this and that. a wise person once told me that there's totally no stress in doing your job. it's the people that cause you stress. baka ganun nga. siguro nga namimiss ko lang ang midshift. ganun lang talaga yun. hayyy

last but not the least, never lose hope. some say things happen for a reason. siguro nga. sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. ika nga ni ethel booba: "ang buhay parang gulong... nasusunog!"

yun lang.... makakain na nga

Thursday, October 12, 2006

and 1 year has passed...


today's my 1st year anniversary here at amn. what a roller coaster ride!

Thursday, October 5, 2006

horoscope

i just checked on my horoscope and here's what it says:

Libra:
Someone you haven't met could be just the person to change your life. It's time to really see where you are and think about where you want to go. The rightness of your wishes will draw this person into your life.

hmmm.. who could this be?

*wonders*

Sunday, September 24, 2006

the superman collection...finally!

after months of searching, i finally found it!

its the superman dvd collection. wee!

sorry sir edu manzano, i'm not rich so opted to the pirated one. hihi

as for my idol, don't worry supes, i'll buy the original superman returns special edition dvd when it's released here. hehe

Tuesday, September 12, 2006

nostalgia

nostalgia mode...

the past few days have been different, silent and sad. the list of the things i miss are close to infinity. i must admit, the past 11 months have been one of the best moments and almost perfect.

you don't always get the dream house, but you get awfully close. i've never been that happy but i've never been this sad. waking up everyday feeling like someone just died... or maybe it was me, the old me.

some good old friends asked me to just hang on. i'll keep my promise but i cannot guarantee for how long... maybe for a few months. im really tired...

Saturday, September 2, 2006

farewell mid

monday will be different. i'll be in the morning shift. i'm not good at words so i'll just say it the best way that i can:

oli - walking home would different from now on. no more chunkyness.
ian - what the hell is your secret to being thin??? nagdrugs ka noh?
zorrs - you've helped us a lot in sports. keep it up and goodluck in graveyard.
ryan - you still have a chance to show how much you love a person. do it before its too late.
fae - i learned that i shouldn't be ashamed of liking opm songs because of you. salamat sa tdp!
bernard - di pa tayo close so bye bye na lang.
richard - salamat sa screenshot. di rin tayo close so yun lang.
phoebe - you made me laugh a lot and made me appreciate donna cruz even more. shadamdadam.
jeanne - you made me realize that eating is the best way to forget your problems.
dean - we'll still be together in am shift. at least i got you there. protect me master.
kelly - its sad that we won't be able to continue our slimming plans. iba ka chong.
liaa - thanks for being there when no one is around. i'll miss those photo ops.
jodie - i will miss you the most. the past few months, i've appreaciated everything around me even more. you will always be special. thank you for everything.

and in case that i'll be able to go back to mid, i hope to see you guys again. ciao!

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

4726 visitors! O_O

Your domain name: CHEATSHEET.TK
TOTAL VISITORS IN THIS PERIOD: 4726
NUMBER OF UNIQUE HOSTS (VISITORS) PER DAY FOR AUGUST, 2006

it's been a long time since i checked our ancient cheatsheet and i was surprised to see the statistics... 4726 visitors! Image man, the page views went up! not only this but even agents from other call centers like teletech are using it. holy guacamoli! Image

Tuesday, August 22, 2006

dreaming of you

and i'm dreaming of you tonight
till tomorrow, i'll be holding you tight
and there's nowhere in the world I'd rather be
then here in my room,
dreaming about you and me


one day... you'll be mine! **drools**

Monday, June 26, 2006

keys me



the newest hit sensation!!! woo-hoo!

Keys Me
beat in the verdict
valeey... nightlee...
V-side the green green grass
Swing Swing
Swing the spinny stef
You vur the shoes
And I will wear the dress
Ohh...

keys me...
v-neat d milke twalay
leeeep me
Al-out the moonlit floor
leaf your open hand
Strike entebend
End make the parflays dance
Silvimousse
Is barkley
So keys me...

Keys me...
Down by da flow can 3 how
Twin vee
of funne hungee tay
bring bring
bing to flower head
will take dachay
make on your father's melt
Ohh...

keys me...
v-neat d milke twalay
tixt me
Al-out the moonlit floor
leaf your open hand
Strike entebend
And make the parflays dace
Is barkley
So keys me...

keys me...
v-neat d milke twalay
leeeep me
Al-out the moonlit floor
leaf your open hand
Strike entebend
And make the parflays dance
silvimousse
Is barkley

So keys me... x5

Thursday, June 22, 2006

a year gone


its been exactly one year since the day that changed most of our lives. it was the day when we left CVG. anyhoo, i think most of us have no regrets for any decisions we made on that day. hehehe

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

epal

Definitions of "epal":
n.

1. derived from the Filipino term "papel" or "pumapel" which means one who likes to always be in the scene or be given attention in things that don't concern them.


2. a person who goes into a situation wherein his presence is not needed or in a place he does not belong. This person may be annoying or not in that instance.

3. "papasin" or trying to get some attention.

4. people that i hate.

get a life losers!

ok...back to surfing...peaceout!

Saturday, June 10, 2006

being twenty something....

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.

You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better.

You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Thursday, April 6, 2006

why dogs are sometimes better than humans

1. Dogs do not have trouble expressing their feelings in public.

2. Dogs miss you when you are gone.

3. Dogs feel guilty when they do something wrong.

4. Dogs don't brag about past relationships.

5. Dogs don't critize your friends.

6. Dogs admit when they are jealous.

7. Dogs do not play games with you--except fetch (and then they don't laugh at how you throw).

8. Dogs are content just being with you, no matter how gushy the movie you are watching is.

9. Dogs don't feel threatened by female intelligence.

10. You can train a dog not to make a mess in the house.

11. You don't have to worry about who your dog is dreaming about.

12. Good looking dogs don't know they are good looking.

13. Dogs understand what the word "NO" means.

14. Dogs don't want to bring their friends home for a beer.

15. Dogs don't tell the punch lines on your jokes.

16. Dogs do not have a mid-life crisis and look for younger owners.

17. Dogs do not critize your driving.

18. Dogs admit it when they are lost.

19. Dogs mean it when they kiss you.

20. Dogs don't care if you put your makeup on or not.

21. Dogs don't care if you have lipstick on when you kiss them.

22. Dogs don't mind Morning breath.

23. Dogs love you without your morning shower and all the foo foo stuff.

24. Dogs are satisfied with a belly rub.

25. Motel manager's don't have to worry about dogs stealing towels, ashtrays or televisions.

26. Dogs know when to leave women alone.

27. Dogs don't complain about the amount of money spent on clothes.

28. Dogs are one of the last forms of unconditional love left in the world.

29. Dogs are LOYAL and FAITHFUL.

30. You can neuter dogs legally!!!

31. Dogs don't nag or manipulate with guilt trips!

32. Dogs know exactly what you need when you are sick.

33. Dogs can't cook. Women say that they can.

34. Dogs are are better at keeping you company than people because they wont tell you that they are busy....

Saturday, April 1, 2006

OT til 3

operations needed volunteers for ot until 3am. kelly and i once again raised our hands and willingly accepted the offer. hehehe. no calls here so where's the stress??? and for a while, we missed midshift.


anyway milkyway, we'll be back to mid tomorrow (..or should i say later). labyah guys!

as for the OT, more moolah, less sleep.

Monday, March 6, 2006

still on midshift. wee!!!!

it's a relief to know that i'm still going to be in the midshift. and why am i not surprised, almost all of us are still on the same shift. cheng was the only one to be moved to another shift because of her schedule.


anyway, it's somehow a dissappointment that i don't get to be with some pepole that i want to be close to. if given a chance, i would like to join my batchmates like kix and melo. oh well, this might not be the last reshuffling so i guess there's still a chance. but still, i'm thankful for the results. midshift for life!

Wednesday, March 1, 2006

redbox at long last!

after a very long delay, we finally went to redbox! and it happened yesterday....errrr....actually it was 12am of this day so technically, it was just a few hours ago. ahehehe.

anyway milkyway, we were able to sing almost all of the songs that we wanted: me and my "do something", "everytime", "i' love rock & roll" and "akin ka na lang"; dean and her "sugar we're going down" and "akap"; kelly and her "my humps" and "photograph" singles. anyway thanks to my buddies for the company and for making it real. woo-hoo!

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

161 pounds?!?!?

just had an annual physical examination and was kinda surprised on the weight...

161 lbs! whatda?!?!

last time i checked, it was 140 lbs. man!! people around are making me healthy huh? but some of them say that it's hardly noticable that i gained weight..

anyway hi-way, height is still 5'10' which is the same height that i had for 10 years. i never even grew! geezz

Sunday, February 26, 2006

march 10 it is

come march 10 and everything will change.

i promised to myself that i should make every second and every moment left memorable before the reshuffling. just as most people say, try to make the most out of it. let the pet peeves and other nonsense come to pass and try to be the best person that you can be. i just hope no one and i say no one will screw up the rest of the days.

Sunday, February 19, 2006

ode to "nice" guys...

got this from an article. (disclaimer: i'm not that nice. hehe)

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003
from Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal